Are You Afraid?

4794749310_0d6ac0f979Domestic violence is when one person in the relationship intentionally uses intimidating and abusive tactics in order to control and instill fear in their partner. Most of the time, the relationship starts off well, then gradually the possessiveness and abuse intensifies.

There are many signs that a relationship has turned abusive. The questions below are typical behaviors shown by abusive partners. The more times you answer “yes,” the more likely it is that you are in an abusive relationship.

  • Do you often feel like you’re walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner?
  • Do you feel like a prisoner in your own home, unable to come and go as you please?
  • Does your partner follow you, or show up at your work, school or friends’ homes?
  • Does your partner put you down or call you names?
  • Does your partner threaten or intimidate you, physically or verbally?
  • Does your partner ever force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Does your partner refuse to practice safe sex, putting you at risk of contracting STDs?
  • Does your partner get jealous when you spend time with family or friends?
  • Does your partner often accuse you of sleeping around?
  • Does your partner monitor your actions and force you to account for your time?
  • Is your partner violent with your children or your pets?
  • Does your partner threaten to take your kids or call DHHS on you?
  • Does your partner act like two different people?
  • Does your partner insult your racial, ethnic, cultural, religious, or class background?
  • Does your partner humiliate you through actions or words privately or in front of others?
  • Does your partner threaten to reveal your sexual identity to your family, work, or faith community?
  • Does your partner ever slap, shove, grab, hit, kick, punch or restrain you?
  • Does your partner ever say, “I can’t live without you” or “I’d kill myself if you ever left me?”
  • Does your partner minimize or deny things that s/he has done to you?

African American 2Abuse can happen to people of any religion, race, or gender. It does not matter how much or how little money people have or what their level of education is. People who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender experience domestic violence as well. It can happen to anyone. If you are being abused, you are not alone. The violence and abuse is never your fault.

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Learn more by visiting these sites:

Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

The Stalking Resource Center

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

National Human Trafficking Hotline